I WAS WRONG! Can you say you were wrong? Tonight we wanted to share this post about saying you are wrong,
Originally posted on booksandsandwiches:
How often do we admit that we’re wrong even when we know we’re wrong? Probably not as often as we could. It’s not necessarily our fault! We have the infamous Ego dictating our behaviour after all. We’re worried if we admit that we were wrong, we will appear weak and we will be crushed. You will have revealed that you are actually a normal human being who doesn’t know everything! The horror! How could the Ego settle for ordinary when it can inflate itself into believing it is the extraordinary?
You could listen to the Ego when it encourages you to keep pretending you were in the right. You can keep hold of those beliefs even as you are presented with information that proves that maybe they were not the most ideal. You can vehemently defend your point or actions, rather than accept anyone else’s opinions. Even when life unravels to prove your previous conceptions invalid, ignore it and stick to what you think you know.
We recently received a Dear Hope question (Dear Hope: Am I Pretty?) that has inspired me to write today’s post. The question basically asked, “am I pretty or not?” That got me thinking about the things we go to and use to judge our beauty. One of the most popular things right now is the “Hot or Not” app.
“Hot or Not,” is an app where you take a picture of yourself and upload to have random people judge rate your “hotness” on a scale of 1-10. Sounds pretty harmless, right? Maybe even fun, at least if you get a good rating.
If your picture does get a high rating, do you feel beautiful, happy, and confident for the day?
But what happens to your self-esteem and self-worth if you get a low score?
Do you lose your confidence, feel ugly, or have a bad day?
Either way, good or bad, do you let that determine how you feel about yourself?
I want to let you in on a little secret. Wanting strangers to tell you whether you are pretty or ugly, does not help your self-esteem. It doesn’t matter if strangers are saying that you’re ugly, or pretty. You are chipping away at your self-worth either way.
You may be thinking to yourself: HOW? If I get a 9, I get a boost of confidence. It makes me feel good about myself.
Here is why: when you judge yourself off of how other people see you, you are getting your confidence and worth from someone other than yourself. You are letting them determine who and what you are rather than knowing for yourself.
Self- esteem and self-worth are personal and once we put them in someone else’s hands, we give away our power and ability to determine those things for ourselves.
You don’t need to go to someone else, especially some stranger, to find confidence. Find it in you. KNOW IT!
As human beings, we have sooo much more depth than whether we or “hot or not.”
Instead of putting yourself out there to let strangers decide if you’re “hot or not,” take your picture or look in the mirror and say to yourself “I AM PRETTY!”
When you feel confident within yourself, it will show up where it matters, in who you are as a person.
Some weird person’s random opinion of your “hotness” is not important, the way you see yourself is.
- ttfn G -
I’ve recently lost 150 pounds and have been trying to stabilize my new life as a lighter/happier person in my new body. I like someone, but no one-not even my crush- even notices me… I don’t want to say that I try to be what people want me to be but I try to be good enough for someone. I think I’m attractive but no boy ever comes my way. Sometimes I think something’s wrong with me or the way that I am. I think in perfectly imperfect though? I’m so confused… Love always, Buddy
First off congratulations on your weight loss! You must be very proud of yourself. I’m so glad to hear that you are trying to stabilize your new life, that is a huge change and needs adjustment time. I think perfectly imperfect is awesome; no one is perfectly perfect and no one needs to be.
You say that you want to be “good enough for someone”, but that someone should be you. You have already taken steps for your health, but now work on building more confidence. Don’t just “think” you’re attractive – own it! Don’t try to be what others want you to be, be who you are, and be the best YOU. You are strong and amazing! I know it can be sad and lonely sometimes, but waiting for that special person to notice you and to see you for the amazing person you already are is worth it. If you try to be what your crush or someone else wants, relationships can’t be real. You deserve real and so do they. Be yourself. It is better than good enough.
Think about your weight loss – You couldn’t have lost 150 pounds overnight. It took time, but was worth the journey. Life is that way also – It takes time, but so worth the journey.
I wish you all the success moving forward. Have fun being you, don’t be anyone else.
This is kind of embarrassing I think I have jock itch, but I’m not sure. It’s not something I want to talk to anyone about, but my balls itch like crazy. I don’t really want to go to the doctor so what can I do?
Tinea cruris, more commonly known as jock itch, is a fungal infection. Most men experience this at least once. The fungus tends to grow in moist dark places, such as the skin of the groin. It can cause redness of the skin, severe itching and flaking. It can also cause an odor.
If this sounds like what you have, here is a plan on how to take care of it.
- Wash the rash with soap and water, dry the area well since the fungus thrives in moist warm places.
- Use an antifungal cream – your best options include Lamisil, Lotrimin AT and Lotrimin Ultra. There are a few brands a little cheaper, but these are more effective and quicker.
- Avoid wearing underwear or clothes that are too tight. You don’t want rubbing.
- This is the hard one – DO NOT ITCH!
With the treatment it should clear up and you should start feeling some relief. If after two weeks of treatment you do not see any improvement you need to see your doctor.
I am not a doctor and I do not know exactly what you have so please make sure you seek medical attention if needed.
I have a crush on this guy at my school. We have been texting for a while and I feel like we both like each other, but he hasn’t asked me out yet. I hint a lot, but he doesn’t get it. Do you think it would be ok if I ask him out?
- The asker
Yes, it would definitely be ok to ask him out. There is nothing wrong with girls doing the asking. We live in an equal world where girls are free to feel and do what they want. Guys like to feel special also; he should be flattered to be asked out. They can have insecurities too and they also get nervous about having to always do the asking.
If you ask him out, you should also plan the date. It doesn’t matter who asks first, but if you continue to go out take turns planning the dates or plan them together.
Happy Valentines Day!
Today is a day about looooovvve!
Whether you are getting flowers, scarfing down a heart shaped box of chocolates, or home watching movies, let today be a reminder to share some love.
Whether you have a romantic night planned with your boyfriend or girlfriend or if you are flying solo this year, you can still have a great day. Show some love to your family; show some love to your friends; and don’t forget to show some love to yourself.
I hope you are having a wonderful day with a few cheesy hearts, maybe a romantic comedy, and a whole lot of love.
With lots of love,
- ttfn G -
We were just nominated for the Liebster Award!
We want to give a big thank you to A Universal Life for the nomination. Check out Tammy’s wonderful blog here: http://tammore.wordpress.com
We are so honored and appreciate all of the amazing support! We love doing this blog and being able to share it with everyone and it is awesome to know that other people have been enjoying it too!
- ttfn G – - NBL V -