Monthly Archives: March 2014

Dear Hope: I Dream Basketball!


Dear Hope,

Next year I will be a sophomore and I want to be on the basketball team.  I tried out this year and did not make it.  I know I’m a little out of shape, but I still want to be on the team so bad.  I love basketball, I dream basketball.  What can I do this summer to prepare for the tryouts? 

–       Jordan wannabe

Dear Jordan Wannabe,

If you want to be ready for the tryouts next year then you need to put in the work.  You said you’re a little out of shape, well if basketball is your passion, take this summer to get into shape. Eating healthy and regular exercise is important.  By the end of the summer you will feel stronger and be ready for the season.

Look for a basketball camp you can go to.  There are basketball camps all over and most offer scholarships if needed.  Also you can check out your local YMCA or community centers. A lot of times they offer camps at a lower price or for free.

If you cannot go to a basketball camp, make a workout plan for yourself.  Try running at least 2-3 times a week and do basketball drills.

Get some friends together for a summer basketball tournament.

Don’t give up! If this is your goal you can work on achieving it. Remember, working on our passions and goals is great, but don’t overdo it.  Don’t go on some crazy diet or overdo the workouts.  Make sure to take some time this summer for fun, hanging out with friends and sleeping in.


Dear Hope: It’s the Thought That Counts!

Dear Hope,

My mom’s birthday is in two weeks and I can not think of a gift.  I never get her anything good, she says it’s the thought that counts, but I don’t even have a thought. Can you give me some ideas? Plus I have no money so it needs to be free.

–       Giftless

Dear Giftless,

Your mother was right; it is the thought that counts.  Mothers like to know they are loved and appreciated.  The gift really should could from your heart, but here are a few ideas to help get you thinking.

Write her a letter telling her how much you appreciate her or about a specific time she helped you through something.

Take a jar or a box and fill it with little notes. Like one note for each year she has been your mother. The notes can just say I love you, or what you love about her, what she means to you or special memories

Take a selfie – print it and frame it. You can buy a cheap frame or make one.  You can embellish either frame with gems, shells, glitter, lace, ribbons

Make her a special breakfast.

Wait on her for the day.

No matter what you do, do it with your heart!


How Do You View People?

Today’s post is meant to get you thinking.

How do you view people, yourself and the world around you?

When we take the time to explore our thoughts and feelings we can learn a lot about ourselves.  It gives you a chance to make changes to the things you don’t like and learn which qualities in yourself you  do like.  It can show you how you view the world and the people in it.  Is your first reaction to judge, love, or accept humanity as they are?

I’m going to post several pictures, each picture is followed by some questions.  Look at the pictures and think about your first thought because it will give you the most insight about yourself.  If you don’t like your first thought, look again and figure out a new way to see things.

The questions are in no way meant to upset anyone they are meant to get you thinking.

Also, none of these pictures or questions reflect how we feel.

How Do You View PeopleWhat is the sex and race of the people in these pictures?


How Do You View People

Does it make you want to learn more about this culture?

Is this a holiday you celebrate?

Does this picture make you nervous because it’s something you are unfamiliar with?

What emotion does it bring up in you?


How Do You View PeopleDoes this picture make you smile?

Do you feel happy for these girls or do you feel jealous of them?

How Do You View PeopleIf you were asked to tell someone who could not see this picture about the people what would you say?

Would you simply say there are seven people?

Would you say 5 females and 2 males?

Would you categorize them by race, the color of their hair or by shirt color?

This picture and these questions can really help you learn how you view people.


How Do You View PeopleUse this picture to answer these questions.

Who makes the most money?

Who is the happiest?

Which people were born in America?

Who seems the most trustworthy?

Who is the most important?

Were you able to figure it out?  Do you think you know?  Did you have enough information?

The point is you don’t have enough information.

You cannot know someone’s life until you get to know them.

You cannot judge someone or begin to guess who or what they are.

It is possible they were all born in America or none of them were.

It is possible the person you would least expect makes the most money.

Every person is equally important.

– NBL V –

Dear Hope: Pimple Head


Dear Hope,

 My face looks like crap.  I have so many pimples and I don’t know how to get rid of them.  Last week I tried 5 different products and none have worked.  What can I do?  I can barely show my face at school.

–       Pimple Head

Dear Pimple Head,

Pimples are a very common thing among teens.  Even though you feel self-conscious about it, a lot of people are going through the same thing. It sounds as if you know about some of the products that are out there, but not how to use them.  No product will work in one day.  It can take several weeks for a product to start giving you results.  Pick one product you already have, follow the directions exactly and wait.  Give it some time to work.  The first product may not work; all five may not work, but give them a chance.

While you are waiting to find the right product here are some other things that can help.

Keeping your face clean- washing it twice a day unless the instructions on the product say different.

Use other products on face as little as possible.  If you shave your face or wear makeup or apply sunscreen just try not to overdo it as the products can be greasy.  If you face tends to be greasy look for oil free products.

Keep hair products on your hair- gel, hairspray, wax- try to not get them on your face.

Keep your hands off your face- Hands have dirt and oil that is left on your face.

Get plenty of sleep and eat as healthy as possible

Good luck and until you get it cleared up show your face with pride.  Pimples don’t define who you are.

Dear Hope: Stop Talking About Me!


Dear Hope,

This girl that sits behind me in my history class keeps saying shit about me.  At first I just ignored it, but now it’s really annoying and it starting to bother me.  I have not said anything to her, but I’m not sure what to do.  Should I confront her?

–       Kellie

Dear Kellie,

I’m sorry you are dealing with this, but it sounds like you are a strong person.  I’m glad to hear you have been trying to ignore it, as hard as that is, it’s the best thing.  When people say mean things it’s to get a reaction and to make themselves feel something.  It makes them feel powerful.  Most times they are going through something or they have low self-esteem, but that is still no reason to do it.

When it starts to become an everyday thing it’s time to do something about it.  It’s time to ask her to stop.  Talk to a friend and tell them what has been going on.  They can help you figure out what to say and you can practice saying it.  A friend can help give you confidence.

Then the next time you see her look her straight in the eyes and tell her to stop.  Be firm with a nice tone.  All you can do is tell her, it doesn’t mean she will stop.  If she doesn’t, it’s time to tell someone else and get some help.  Talk to the teacher or counselor and let them help you handle this.