I turn 18 in 3 months and I’m getting a tattoo. I’m getting 3 butterflies on my shoulder. I have always wanted one, but my parents said I had to wait till I was 18, because they would not consent to it. I’m so ready to get it except one thing. I have heard horror stories about it getting infected. How easy is it to get an infection and how can I avoid it? I really want to get my tattoo.
Dear Butterfly Girl
Getting a tattoo is a big and permanent decision so make sure you have really thought it through before you get one.
After your tattoo is finished, the tattoo artist will give you instructions on how to take care of it. Make sure to follow all of their instructions to avoid getting an infection.
Leave your bandage on for 3-5 hours unless they tell you longer. After the bandage is removed, wash the area with warm water and a mild anti-bacterial soap. Use your hands to wash it, because anything else can be too harsh. Gently pat dry with clean paper towel. Allow skin to air dry and then apply the anti-bacterial ointment your tattoo artist recommended. They will probably tell you to do this 3-4 times a day for about 4 days.
Remember showering is fine, but do not go swimming or take baths for about 2-3 weeks.
Scabbing is normal so do not pick or scratch because this can lead to infection.
Until it heals, check it and see if there are any changes like a rash, swelling, or discharge coming out of the tattoo. If you see anything like this it could be an infection, call your doctor to get it treated.
Before you jump in and get a tattoo, research different tattoo artists. Make sure they do the style you want and talk to them. Ask them all of your questions. For example, ask about after care and how long they have been tattooing. Ask them to show you pics of their work. Make sure the studio is clean and that they sterilize everything. Ask around and see if other people have used them.
Again, think this through. Remember it is a permanent decision!
I really want to work in fashion, but I don’t know where to start. I love clothes, I read all the fashion magazines and I am constantly trying new looks. All my friends ask me to shop with them and to pick out their outfits. I’m 18 and I just graduated high school. I’m taking a year off before I go to college because I want to figure out exactly what I want. What should I do?
There a so many different jobs in fashion. You need to see what you like and what you don’t like. A great way to do that is to intern. There are so many opportunities for internship in the fashion industry. It will give you a chance to see what it’s like and to soak up tons of information. You will have an opportunity to talk to different people and get some good advice. Although it will be exciting and fun, it’s still a lot of work. Interns have to do mostly grunt work and jobs they don’t love, but in a fascinating environment. Don’t be discouraged if this is not an area of fashion you love, at least you will find out what doesn’t interest you. You can then look for what you love.
To find an intern job, start by checking out fashion websites and fashion magazines. They always need interns.
My mother and a weird TV show just taught me a serious life lesson.
The other day I was whining and complaining about something that was not going the way I wanted. I don’t even remember what it was now (obviously it was super important). It doesn’t even matter what it was.
Anyways, I was whining and my mom looked me in the eyes and said very seriously “Well, this is what you want.” Wait? What? How is this what I want? I am clearly annoyed that this is not going my way. If you are lost refer back to the whining….
She said “You are making a choice right now. You are making the choice to complain and feel crappy instead of choosing something better.”
Ugh! Why does she have to be right?
I guess you can find a life lesson hidden anywhere?
A lot of times as teens we feel like we don’t have control over things. But sometimes we actually do.
We actually have control over the way we react to things. I chose to whine so I obviously wanted to feel cranky. When we have the opportunity to makes choices, we choose the things we want.
I think that’s a huge part of getting what you want in life. When you get the chance to choose, make sure you choose what you really want.
Then I just heard a guy on some weird TV show say something about how life is a gift so stop choosing to make it a burden.
A life lesson from my mother and a weird TV show.
– ttfn G –
How am I supposed to tell my best friend that I’m in love him with him if I’m about 95% positive that he doesn’t feel the same way? We’ve been friends for about 6-7 years now and I’ve likes him a lot before but I just kept falling for him. I don’t know what to do. Please help.
Dear “I’m in love with him”
First things first: Do you really like him? You need to figure out if you truly like him or is it just convenient because you’re good friends. Are you feeling lonely and he is there? Is he someone you could genuinely see yourself dating?
Once you decide that yes, without a doubt you are into him, then it’s time to be honest. I know it is hard, but you need to tell him. It can be an uncomfortable conversation, but it’s necessary. Keeping something like that hidden is not fair to either one of you.
Why? Because if you keep it in, you will always wonder what if. Plus, without having an answer or a place to put your feelings they will just keep growing for him.
You need to explain how you feel, while telling him you don’t expect anything in return. That no matter what you want to continue to be friends. Let him know that you are not trying to make it awkward, but it was hard holding your feelings in and it was important for you to share them.
Be prepared for his reaction:
- There is still that 5% chance he may feel the same way. (Then yay for you. Take it slow and see where it goes.)
- He may not react at all and everything stays the same. (Sometimes it is easier for people to kind of just ignore things.)
- He may get freaked out and not want to talk to you for a while. (If this happens, let him know that you understand he needs some time but you still want to be friends. Reassure him that you don’t expect anything other than his friendship.)
Be prepared for your reaction: Once you tell him hopefully you will feel better knowing you got it out and knowing how he really feels.
- If he feels the same then you will be full of emotions, so again take it slow.
- It is possible that once you tell him, you might feel different or uncomfortable. He might be ok with it, but it may be hard for you to be around him. If that’s the case take some time to sort out your feelings. Decide if you can handle a friendship with him even if he does not feel the same way about you. For example if he starts dating someone new.
I know this can be awkward, but you can do it. You need to get it out so you know what to do next. Remember you have been friends for a long time and it’s worth figuring things out.
We would love to hear how things worked out. Send us an email update.